Okay, hear me out.
I have been watching this anime called “Kaguya-sama: Love is War”. It is a hilarious Japanese anime, and I am convinced about its premise: the first one to fall is a loser. This premise is strong that its exaggeration of it in different episodes totally makes for a good laugh, as you wonder if this is the state of heterosexual romance in general.
But before that, let me explain to you what the prisoners’ dilemma is. It is part of rational choice theory, and this example gamifies the situation into a riddle. The riddle is: if two robbers are suspected of committing the crime together, and investigated in separate rooms and thhese are the options presented before them: What would be the best choice you could make not knowing what your partner would do?
Remember, if the partner confessed & you remain silent, you go to jail for 20 years! So the punishment for staying silent like a fool is heavy, and ratting out (assuming your partner would also do it) is still something you could bear. But if you both remain silent, you both could be free! What would you do?!
Anyway, my larger point, inspired from Kaguya-sama, is that love is this prisoner’s dilemma.
- The person who falls in love deeply is the certified idiot.
- The person who doesn’t fall in love has nothing to lose.
- If they both confess together, then it is happily ever after in prison!
For the miniscule possibility that the other person feels the same way, will you go all out and suffer like a fool?
Don’t fall in love, kids. It doesn’t look good for most of us. That’s that on that.
Yours certified idiot,