What’s your relationship status?
“I was nauseous and tingly all over. I was either in love or I had smallpox.”
— Woody Allen
I know. I know. You don’t need to tell me about it. Cheesy title!
And thanks to Himesh Reshamiya this question is followed by an even cheesier answer– “It’s complicated.”
To tell you the truth, I hate it when somebody asks me such questions. Let me give you a better picture.
**Grinning from ear to ear, some nutcase shamelessly asks me,
“Do you have a boyfriend?”
“No.” I reply with no interest to continue the chat.
“So, do you have a crush on someone?”
“No!!” I answer more aggressively this time.
“You’re straight, nah? Are you depressed?”
Without thinking much, I scream, “No!!! What? Yes…Yeah I’m straight. What the f…?”**
By now, I’m totally exasperated. It doesn’t take much time for me to make a fool of myself. Sigh!
Back to the point, I was saying I hate confessions. I hate personal questions and I hate it more when they refuse to take ‘No’ for an answer. Is it really necessary to have a boyfriend or crush every minute of your adolescence? I am in this state of blank. Damn you, don’t pity me or feel too good for yourself. I love no jerk. Period.
I wonder why we get into a relationship so soon. No independence, no emotional stability. It’s ridiculous to be in a relationship just for physical intimacy! Since when did love become so cheap and easily available? I cringe sometimes seeing some “lovebirds.” But there are also times I feel that the couple is “meant for each other.” Our generation is much more intelligent, more mature, undoubtedly. [It doesn’t mean we don’t make mistakes. It’s just that we’re not prejudiced and are brave enough to do things differently. I’ll elaborate about this in some blog later.] The understanding brings with it the need to be understood. This need brings loneliness. I hate seeing kids, who don’t even value friendship, claiming to be intensely in love. Friendship is the first step. If you don’t have best friends, how come you have a girlfriend? If you are scared to share your little secrets with a friend, what makes you think you’ll be able to trust your love? Will YOU be responsible and sensitive to your partner’s secrets and feelings? So the question is when is the right time to be in a relationship? I don’t have the answer. Love knows no rules.
But there are some things one must know before getting into a relationship. Let me give my unwanted pearls of wisdom. [Believe me; I have opinions on almost everything.] For starters, don’t force love out from your heart… You don’t fall purposely, do you? So, don’t ‘fall’ in love consciously. Let it happen. Don’t date because you want to keep up with the latest trend in your peer group. I don’t care what kind of relation you get into – casual or serious. I’m no one to judge. But, for god sake, let your partner know what your intentions are. Avoid getting into destructive relationships with over-possessive, over-jealous, over-horny [if that’s a term!] partners. Don’t boss your partner around. Don’t quit on friends after getting into a commitment. Don’t cheat.
I should quit sermonizing. I really shouldn’t have a say in these things ’cause I’m single. But I know this for sure, being in love (in spite of all the trouble it invites), I bet it feels good!
Not in love,
(Copyright: Enrique IglesiasJ)
Tame She Wolf
“When I saw you I fell in love, and you smiled because you knew.”
– William Shakespeare